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What’s a mom to do? June 24, 2015

The education system in America is broken, it must be. How is it that a child, a highly intelligent child, that just graduated high school with a true thirst for knowledge and whose main desire is to go to college to learn more, is unable go? And the reason being that, said child can’t go because the parents are new to the game, don’t have the prestigious contacts and the finances to send the child. How do we expect to build a better country if most of the people in the higher education system are there because they were told to go there, not because they want to be there?

As a parent, what do we want for our children? Ultimately we want them to be happy, right? And what do the experts say that makes up happy? Doing what we love. So it can be said that finding what you love and developing it your whole life would cause someone to have a happy life. Right? So what do you do when you have a child whose passion is learning? Well, you foster that passion like you would for the the child that has a passion for music, or soccer, or horses; you do what you can to make sure the child experiences all kinds of learning and continues to develop that passion.

This fostering of passions does not apply to only one child, but to all your children. Well, what if you have nine, like we do? Do you only do this for the first few? No, of course not. Well, at least, I thought not. But now I have to reevaluate. You see, it is my first child that has this passion for learning and now that he has graduated high school and I can’t give him the one simple thing he desires (to continue his education), I am thinking maybe we went about the whole thing wrong.

Maybe we shouldn’t have allowed him to explore his world to the extent he wanted to. Maybe we shouldn’t have let him just read the encyclopedias and dictionaries. Maybe letting him study a subject to his heart was content wasn’t a good way to go. We knew early on that this child was very intelligent. Using words well before his first birthday, singing recognizable tunes at a year, knowing his colors and counting soon after a year. By eighteen months he had over a 300 word vocabulary in two languages and had been speaking full sentences for months. I was told at that point I could easily teach him to read, but I didn’t. I waited until he decided he wanted to read. Which when he decided that, it was only a couple months before he was off and reading real books. But maybe that was the wrong approach.

Because he was so far a head and had this natural thirst for knowledge, we decided to homeschool him so he could develop this passion as far as he wanted. Maybe that was the wrong thing to do. When he took his first standardized test ever, he was not prepped or shown how to do well on it. He just took it and received a 97 battery (CAT test, 4th grade level, given at the end of what should have been 3rd grade). Maybe I should have prepared him, given him practice tests, shown him what to expect. Taught him concepts instead of letting him understand and learn them all himself.

When he asked for more formal schooling because he felt that other kids were starting to know more then he did, I found a hybrid classical school (two day a week) for him to give a try. With no formal schooling they put him in a grade based on his birthdate and a lower grade math. He did beyond well. On the Iowa testing that year he scored 13+ on all but maybe one area. He took the next year to do a few years of work so his grade would better reflect his level. Maybe I shouldn’t have let him do this. Maybe I should have let him stay where he was, or maybe I should have put him in a “real” school at this point.

Now he is ready for the high school years and we go with an accredited homeschool co-op, knowing full well, he wants to go to college so transcripts would probably be a good thing for that. He, of course, excels. His worth ethic and genuine interest in ALL of his subjects is nothing but commended by his teachers. He discovered his knack for speech writing and reciting those speeches, as well as his love of drama. The next year, the same, he continues to excel. Starts the year off with the PSAT, no prep and scores a 186. He decides at the end of the year to take the SAT so he can dual-enroll his junior year. He takes the SAT with no fancy prep course, studies for a week. Once again, as with all his standardized testing, no prep, he does well (1910 overall, 740 in writing). His junior year, he dual enrolls for science (college physics, receives an A) and designs his own English course as he continues to take classes through his accredited homeschool co-op. Starts the year with the PSAT, no prep, except for previous standardized tests, and gets just over a 200, qualifying for the National Merit Scholar honor. He applies for GHP (Governor’s Honors Program) in Communications and won at the high school level and represented our local public high school at the state competition. At the end of the year he takes the SAT again (increasing his overall to 2140, 740 now in Reading too) and a week later, with just that week to study, the ACT (31 overall, with a 36 in English).

At the beginning of his junior year he decided he wanted to attend a more intensive high school for his last year or two of high school. He had his goal set to get into one of the most prestigious in America, Philips Exeter Academy (PEA) in NH. Yes, a forty-six thousand dollar a year, high school. No he did not get in, most likely because they would have had to foot the bill, they knew very well that our family of ten (at the time) could not afford their school. But they did offer him a nearly full scholarship to attend their summer school that summer. Which we drove him to and once again he excelled. He took three classes, receiving passing grades in all and two with honors. He tried out for and received a role in the summer play and also participated in a sports program while there.

For his senior year, since PEA did not come through, we enrolled him in a local college prep high school. He signs up for four AP classes since he never had access to them before, as well as environmental science, public speaking, drama, chorus and tried to continue his weight training program on his own at school (which was stopped by the school within a few weeks unfortunately). He also decides to take two SAT subject tests at the beginning of the year (no prep, of course), one in English (710) and one in French (670) Not only did he excel in school and enjoy learning in all his classes, he also got to compete against other students from other private school in drama, chorus and model UN. He got a major role in the school play. He got to use his French for teaching kids at an international school, as well as participate in a French immersion weekend. He was inducted into the Thespian society, received an award for have over a 3.5 overall GPA. But did he graduate with honors? No. Should he have? You decide.

So here I am. I have this kid whose passion is to learn. He wants to go to college for Economics, a course he feel in love with his junior year. His love for it strengthened at Philips Exeter, where he received honors for it. He wants to work in the government, as a diplomat or what have you, and I can’t even send him to college. Although he fits the main description for most of the prestigious colleges, a true love of learning, he can not get into most of the colleges he has applied to. He can not compete with other high school graduates who have had eight or more AP classes, who are in the honor society, who have been trained to get good grades on the SAT, who have the connections and most importantly who have the MONEY. So I have to sit by and watch my son watch all his classmates from PEA and this prep school get into colleges he would like to go to and some he wouldn’t, with big scholarships that most of them don’t need and some of them DON’T EVEN CARE or appreciate. It breaks my heart to watch this.

We were so relieved when he would finally have some guidance for college, as we obviously knew nothing.  The college counselor at the high school obviously didn’t know what to expect with my son’s past experiences. He didn’t get into most of the colleges he applied to and the back-up school, he still remains on the waiting list. He wanted to go out of state; we were not told that would be nearly impossible to afford, so the colleges he did get in to are impossible to send him to. A $36,000 a year scholarship doesn’t mean much for a college with a $70,000 a year cost, for example. Since completing school my son has started applying to local public and private schools, giving up his dream for an out of state liberal arts school that excels in economics. Of course, he has gotten in with no problem, but all the merit based scholarships that he would have received are gone for the public ones and the private ones are still too expensive, even with the scholarships. The Hope scholarship will cover all of tuition, yes, but tuition on a public school is a fraction of the cost of everything else. And the Hope scholarship only covers a small portion of the private schools tuition. The bill will still be over $10,000 and my son can only qualify for a $5,500 unsubsidized loan. Our only option seems to be to do a gap year and see if he can qualify at these state schools for some merit based scholarships to help reduce the cost so he can pay the rest with an unsubsidized loan. A GAP YEAR for a kid who just wants to go to school and learn, truly, that’s all he wants.

So did I go about this all wrong?  Was letting him experience all ways of learning a bad thing?  Should I have put my child in the school system all along?  He would know how to take a test and get an even better grade. He would have all the classes his classmates had access to. He would have all the honors he deserves. His college counselor would have been better able to gauge where he could go to school. BUT would he have this genuine love of learning, the desire to really want to continue his education? That thing that all the top colleges are supposedly looking for.  Or would he have the same indifference towards college as most of his classmates?

I did my best to foster his passion, is that wrong? Now what?

What’s a mom to do?

 

A Christmas Carol Dinner Theatre Event November 8, 2011

Filed under: Family,work/life balance — Amy and Simon @ 3:37 pm
Please join us for an afternoon or evening of Theatre Magic and a Delicious        Holiday Feast
As A Company of Friends Productions
In Association With City Tap of Peachtree City
Presents

A Christmas Carol
By Tammy Jane Barton and Gayann Truelove

A new vision of Dickens’ classic yuletide tale! Full of sentiment, powerful images, Christmas Carols and even some laughs! A Wonderful holiday event for the entire family.

Saturdays, December 10 and 17 at 1:00 p.m.
Sundays, December 11 and 18 at 3:00 p.m. and 7:30 p.m.

At ~CITY TAP
273 Commerce Drive in Peachtree City
In West Park Walk on the corner of Hwy. 74 and Hwy. 54

Holiday Feast Included in Ticket Price
*Hot Rolls   * Tossed Salad w/Dressing   *Roast Turkey and Stuffing
*Buttered Asparagus   *Holiday Dessert   *Coffee, Tea or Ice Water

*There will also be a Cash Bar for our guests 21 years and older.

Seating is VERY limited and making reservations is a MUST!
Payment is NOT due at time of placing your reservation…Full payment is due at the door prior to show.
 

  THREE WAYS TO MAKE RESERVATIONS
1. Call 770-251-7611
2. Visit us online at www.fcft.net/ACOF <http://www.fcft.net/ACOF>
3. Reserve your table at City Tap in Peachtree City during regular business hours.

 

 

SPECIAL XOBIOTIC OFFER THURSDAY ONLY! March 10, 2009

Hello guys,

 

This is FYI for those who expressed interest in the supplement I am taking to sleep better, feel happier and be overall healthier.  I have my MIL on it to decrease her meds for high blood pressure, cholesterol and diabetes, as well as to help her lose a few pounds, have more energy and be healthier herself.  It is really easy to take as it is my favorite thing in the world — chocolate!  Ask anyone, I am a chocolate fanatic.  Now I don’t have to feel bad about it.

Xocai – The Most Healthy Chocolate has launched a new product.  Xobiotic–probiotics with healthy chocolate, to add to their other seven great products: Activ–liquid chocolate, X Power Squares, Nuggets, Protein Bars, Omega Squares, X Powerhouse Cookies and Sipping Chocolate.

What is Healthy Chocolate?

Cold-processed Belgian cocoa powder, acai berry, and blueberry. High levels of antioxidants (no green tea extract).  No caffeine, preservatives, fillers, waxes, processed sugar or trans fats.  Xocai is full of antioxidants, diabetic-friendly, high in fiber, boosts sense of well-being, increases energy and tastes great!

Why do I need Healthy Chocolate?

It’s simple!  These products are produced with unprocessed, non-alkalized, non-lecithinized cacao powder and are then combined with the acai berry and blueberry.  The combination of these ingredients in their natural state provides a tasty product packed with powerful antioxidants.

Chocolate products found on store shelves use processed cocoa powder and sugars, along with bad fats, fillers, waxes, preservatives and high amounts of calories.

GREAT NEWS from my team:

 

HEADS UP!!!!! 

There will be a special announcement tonight on the MONDAY NIGHT LIVE
CALL . . . (however – since our own Marcy P was on the XOCAI 7 DAY
Cruise – she had inside information!!!)

On Thursday . . . there will be a ONE DAY ONLY – Buy 2 Xobiotic’s get 1 FREE
.
. .
What an amazing offer for this terrific product.

If you haven’t tried it or tasted it  – it is the tastiest chocolate yet!  I was blown away at how important probiotics are for you!. . . Check out all the good news about it at www.mxicorp.com!  As you know – traditionally there are only discounted offers with new product launches – so don’t miss out on this wonderful opportunity!


This will be a perfect opportunity for new distributors/wholesale customers or to upgrade or just get a supply for yourself of this awesome new product!!!
 


Let me know if you want more details!  Also, for the first time ever there will be a corporate meeting in Atlanta (the company is only three years old and Atlanta is a new market) on the evening of March 19th.  If you want to hear directly from the original members about this product this is going to be a great opportunity.

 

Amy Hukin
770-632-7949
www.TheMostHealthyChocolate.com
www.sharechoc.com
www.amyandsimonblog.com

 

 

Does job matter? August 5, 2008

Our lives were in a whirlwind after the birth of our second child.  Not only were we learning lessons on health, we were moving what seemed like constantly, trying to fix our situation.  We didn’t know what we were trying to fix, but we knew something was not right.  Later we discovered we needed to find Simon a job with a company he could believe in (or he needs to work for himself) and the job needed to have work/life balance. 

Soon after #2 was born, Simon switched working from his high travel job to a lower travel job.  The travel did play a part, but it was also his conscience that made him switch.  He didn’t believe in what the company stood for, he couldn’t stand behind the product. 

The new company was a company you could feel good about working for.  Not only did they have a better product, but also they believed very strongly in giving to the community.

That job did not last long.  Simon’s father had asked for some help either taking over his business or getting it ready for sale.  So only after working at the new company for eight months, Simon quit to help out his father.  After all family is family.

The next fourteen months we ran our own business (and moved twice). Simon saw for the first time one of his children grow up in front of him, after realizing what he missed with his first child, he decided that he needed to be around more.  He didn’t want to miss another moment if he could help it. 

In April 2001, the family business was in shape for sale, so we returned to our home that we had only lived in for a few months before helping Simon’s father.  It was back to the corporate world for Simon, this time with less pay than before.  This was a low travel job for Simon’s industry, since he knew he didn’t want to travel a lot at this point.  But then the travel increased from 30% to 80% after the Enron scandal changed the way public accounting firms were set up.  So Simon found another new job seventeen months later.

This one was in the airline industry with a 9 to 5 workday and barely any travel, but a long commute.  With the failing industry due to 9/11 the airlines sold this company to an investment company, which started firing people left and right, even those that worked there for twenty years or more.  Needless to say the atmosphere was very stressful and the company was unstable. So this time, nineteen months later Simon found another new job and this one involved a move across state lines.  This was in 2004.

This was a move to a place where we could live a few miles from work since commuting had gotten old fast.  We focused on work/life (we knew we wanted that), didn’t consider the industry too much.  Big mistake.  The people in the industry didn’t think twice about lying in the interview process to get Simon to take the job.  Once we got there the job was nothing like it was explained, and it was easily his worst job so far. So barely twelve months later Simon moved to another new job. 

This one was in a familiar industry, the hours were not too long, and travel was negligible, but once again there was a commute.  Then the company was sold to an investment company, things were up in the air again, and travel once again started to increase. So it lasted a year.

In August 2006 another move across state lines and another new job; but now with a company that has a product that we can believe in, and has work/life balance and little travel.  Let’s not forget to mention we live only a few miles from work.  So far so good, let’s hope it stays that way.

So does what job you have matter?  This may seem obvious, as it obviously does matter, but it wasn’t clear to us as fledgling worker bees all the things that contribute to making that determination.  The key points so far:

What the company does and how they do it matters a lot.  You have to feel good about you are contributing to everyday or you won’t want to get up in the morning and go contribute.

The company (and obviously your boss) has to consider you and treat you respectfully.  This means understanding that you have a life and a family.  If they expect you to work all the time, and therefore not have a life, what kind of ‘life’ is that?  This of course includes the travel component.

Commuting may be commonplace these days, although current gas prices may help reverse this trend, but it makes no sense.  It’s expensive, it’s stressful, and it’s a waste of time.  Never mind the impact it has on the environment.

If you are miserable at work, you will most likely be miserable most of the time away from work.  It drains you and keeps you up at night.  In short, it stresses you out.

Changing jobs and moving from house to house wasn’t easy, and sometimes we second-guess ourselves looking back, but then we think about why we made those changes and we realize that we would make the same choices again today.  Sure, we might be ‘further ahead’ in the rat race, or have more money had we stuck it out, maybe, but life isn’t about money.  It’s about happiness.  And that doesn’t mean foregoing financial as well as other personal successes; it just means that there is more than one way to live your life.  You can live according to other people’s mantras, or you can live by your own.  You just have to keep searching until you figure out what that is or until you find a way to live by it.